In life we find ourselves acquiring things that we think we can’t live without. Things like people, possessions, and ideas. We subconsciously place these things on a pedestal, and we walk through life oblivious to the fact that one day they may no longer be there. For me, I lost some people that I was 100% convinced I couldn’t live without. All the time we spent together, all the plans we made all went away when they did.

So how did I do it? How did I continue to live on without these very crucial things in my life. I had to gain a sense of situational awareness and I had to find peace in moving on. It was important that I acquired an understanding of the fact that my story was not over. In fact, it felt as though it was just beginning. I turned the page and brought one chapter to a close. What lies before me now are blank pages in need of a title and a story.

Situational Awareness

Time and time again we under-estimate our own fortitude and make claims such as “I can’t live without (Blank)”. The problem with that logic is that nothing in this life is permanent. if you keep living chances are at some point you absolutely will have to live without that thing or person. I do not recommend that you interact with these things like the next time could be the last time. Although accurate, that breeds an unhealthy sense of acute paranoia that will wear on your soul over time.

Instead, be in the moment as much as possible and enjoy that person or that thing for as long as you are able to. When the time arises that these things are no longer present it is imperative that you do not get lost in the grief. Understand the situation and know that although heavy, you can lift this weight off your shoulders and press forward into your new chapter. Take time to heal and I encourage you to let those around you be a source of strength that you can pull from. Understand that life is a journey, one in which we were not meant to endure alone.

Peace in Moving On

I want to encourage you to find peace in moving on. Understand that your sadness, anger, and frustration will not undo what has been done. Therefore, it is best to find your peace however that may be and start to focus on moving on. Be honest with yourself and be honest about the situation. Do your best to have realistic expectations and conclusions. Know that peace is found in self-care, and that goes a whole lot deeper than a trip to the spa.

They say that if look forward you will go forward. It is near impossible to properly move forward whilst looking back. Life goes on and so too should you. Finally, pour into yourself and grow. A chapter has come to a close in your life, but that is not the end. As you move on into this next chapter take time to find out what you want to do, can do, and need to do. Once you figure it out, pursue it. Pursue it with your whole being.

In Closing…

So, you lost something you thought you couldn’t live without, and your world has been turned upside down. You find yourself in unfamiliar territory. Well as you step into this new chapter it’s time to gain a sense of situational awareness and find peace in moving on. Eventually you will discover the title of this new chapter. For me, its Journeyman: Trek with purpose, on purpose. I have started to fill the blank pages with my journey of discovery. Discovering how to live on though not having the very thing I said I couldn’t live without. And not just living but thriving and growing in ways I never imagined possible, and I encourage you to do the same. God has been too good to us, and I don’t know about you, but I find that he is the one thing I truly don’t want to live without. Go in good faith and be blessed. You Got This!!

Without it, you Can Live video: https://youtu.be/JSpxo39hiwA