Throughout life there will undoubtedly come a time when you feel broken. For one reason or another we get to a place where we feel disjointed, disconnected, and splintered. Life has a knack of introducing us to things that are sometimes very heavy and by nature produces a lot of pressure. This pressure causes stress and stress leads to fracturing and inevitably breaking. 

After you reach that breaking point, you are often left feeling mentally exhausted, spiritually fatigued, and sadly hopeless. Everything changes from your outlook and perspective to your attitude and behavior. We become less inclined to see a big picture as we ourselves are not whole. 

I want to encourage you that should you find yourself in a situation where you feel broken to any extent that you do these three things. First get from under that which saw you break in the first place. Next pick up the pieces of what was. And last build yourself back up. 

Get From Under It

As time flows on and life sees you pressed and pressured to the point you break in one way or another, then it’s time to get from under that which has you pressed. Recognize that this is not an easy thing to do as most time we are consumed by doubt. However, I need you to know that it is a very possible task to achieve. It just requires you to make some adjustments. 

Maybe you loss something or other someone and you are blinded by the fog of uncertainty as to life without them. Seek counseling. Maybe you have experienced an illness, injury, or setback and what was your normal now becomes foreign. Give yourself mercy and get to a place where you can establish a new normal. 

Those were just a couple of examples that illustrate ways you can get from under the heavy situation. I’m not saying that this will fix the damage that has been done. That comes later. The point of this is to bring you to a place where you can start to accumulate and utilize one of your greatest assets, hope. 

The passing of my lady brought with it waves of unfavorable conditions. Everything from financial burden to emotional distress and mental fatigue. The lighthearted tone of what we had soon shifted into heavy handed emotional pressure. Being left in a state of brokenness with no resolution felt like I was holding up a building. That is how intense the pressure was. 

Well one day many months post her passing I got to a place where I wanted to be rid of this pressure. Through the help of therapy and support from family and friends I was able to find my own resolution and step out from underneath that pressure. 

Picking Up The Pieces

Once you get to that place where you have put the weight aside it’s time for you to pick up the pieces. In my opinion this is not the most important part in this process however, I would classify it as the most meticulous part. How well you gather your pieces plays a crucial part in what comes next. 

Now when I speak of picking up the pieces, what do I mean? I this is the point where you start to address and make peace with things that were. This is where maybe you rekindle the love of old hobbies and areas of interest. This is where you start taking steps towards a better tomorrow. By adjusting your perspective, you begin to see that the big bright sun that used to brighten your skies has now become a sea of stars that act like nightlights in your current darkened sky. 

The most important thing is that you get to a place where your spirit is elevated, and your mind is calm. Broken doesn’t mean the end unless you let it. 

After that day when I stepped out from under my heavy situation, I found myself in a place where I could reach the pieces of what was. To be honest I felt a little overwhelmed at dealing with it all but that soon faded as I got excited at the prospect of what can be. I begin to make peace with the struggles of old. I begin to immerse myself in hobbies that I put to the side at one point. 

One by one I picked up every piece doing my best not to ignore even the smallest thing. 

The Build Up

Remember that most important part I spoke about earlier well here it is. As you are picking up the pieces you then begin to reconstitute them into something special. Each piece plays a role in the overall big picture. However, here’s the beauty, the picture you are creating, the you that you are building can be familiar yet unique. 

The reason this is the most important part is because you are establishing an identity. For some this may see them putting themselves back together as is and returning to a familiar space. However, to others this may see them use the pieces of what was to become a new masterpiece entirely. 

This is what I mean when I say that being broken doesn’t have to mean the end. If anything, it is a transition period. 

As I begun to pick up the pieces, I wanted a fresh start. You see it was not my desire to return to the me of old rather evolve. I used the broken pieces and got to work crafting a new masterpiece. This new space see me with an elevated perspective on myself meaning I now understand the importance of self-worth. This new space sees me use my talents and areas of interest to create bridges to hopefulness in not just myself but in the community. 

This new space sees me humbly embracing the road ahead and understanding now that you can get pushed past the breaking point and still be okay. 

In Closing

When that inevitable heavy situation finds itself resting on your shoulders and pushing you to your breaking point here’s what you do. First you do your best to get from underneath the pressure by making some slight adjustments in your life to help restore your hope. Next you begin to pick up the pieces, you can do this by addressing old issues and getting to a place of peace or even pick up a hobby or something significant you might have neglected for a time. Last you build yourself up which sees you use the broken pieces to reconstruct what was or forge something entirely new. Remember that being broken doesn’t have to mean defeat it just gives you a new avenue by which to build your path to victory. Go forward and blessed. You Got This!!!

Beyond the Breaking Point video: https://youtu.be/gY-J6FU-1iA